Hi Everyone,
I thought I would start a new blog site on dating after 60. My decision to write this blog is based on my own experience and journey in life. Like me, you may find yourself making the decision on whether the time is right to dive back into the dating pool. Many of us experience a divorce or the death of a spouse. Once you have given yourself time to heal and recover from your loss, you may start to feel the urge to pick yourself up and move forward.
Some people find it easier to get back in the dating scene, while others struggle with their decision. It wasn't an easy decision on my part and I knew I needed to make a change in my life. I was just existing after experiencing the loss of my husband. My friends and family knew I needed to move forward, meet new friends, and join the living. With a little encouragement, time, and patience I took that first step.
It takes time to heal and recover, the healing and recovery process is as unique as you are. Only you know when you are ready. I would encourage you to give yourself time and patience to sufficiently recover from your loss physically and emotionally. You will know when the time is right, simply trust your instincts.
You may start off feeling a bit guilty, don't let that guilt hold you back. We should never feel guilty about seeking companionship because we deserve to live life filled with happiness. While some people are satisfied and happy on their own, others are not. I personally don't think anyone should be alone. If you are happy and satisfied with your life and are not seeking affirmation, but are comfortable with who you are without seeking the approval of anyone else, you are in a good place.
I'm certainly not the same person I was when I initially committed to love and live life with my late husband. Life happens and we change. I have learned to embrace myself, accept my life, remain open-minded, and trust my instincts. As I meet people, I am discovering new things about myself, starting to understand what I bring to a relationship, my value, and reasons why someone may or may not want to be dating me.
So if you find yourself in a place where you are ready to start dating again, remember these key items:
- Give yourself time to heal and recover from your past experience.
- Don't let guilt hold you back.
- Make sure you are happy, satisfied, and comfortable with yourself.
- Understand who you are, accept change, and embrace yourself.
- Pay attention, accept feedback, and enjoy the journey.
That's it for today. I hope you enjoy my blog. I look forward to reading your comments and hope you share your new experiences.
God Bless
